We are both in our 60s and, after illness six years ago, she is unable to take medication that may help
My wife has a diminishing sex drive and now continually making excuses as to why it is not a good time to be intimate. I am 69 and she is 61. She had breast cancer six years ago and this precludes her taking medication that may help. Do you have any advice – other than my taking on a discreet lover?
Breast cancer can sometimes lead to depression – which needs to be treated. It may also change a woman’s relationship with her own body to a more negative one; if this has occurred, you should help support her in coming to terms with her altered body, and in developing a more positive body image. If she truly feels attractive and desirable, she will be more desirous.